- Spend time and money on the food, drinks and DJ or band. That’s where our focus was and I am so happy we made those decisions. No one is going to remember your cake knife or toasting glasses. If the music is terrible or the food is gross that will put a damper on the festivities.
- Have one really sane person in your bridal party to keep you in check. I was blessed with 5 of them, but my bridesman in particular talked me down from the ledge, fixed my hair, repaired my broken bustle with a safety pin, and charmed the in-laws. And he caught the bouquet.
- Don’t listen to the haters or buy into the drama. When you get engaged everyone is going to start to have a LOT of opinions. Guess what? It’s not their wedding. Do what you want and what’s right for the two of you, and don’t worry about what great aunt Suzy thinks. (Also, if you happen to write about your experiences in a public forum, try to ignore comments like “who cares.” Really, if you don’t care, why are you still reading this? Go read about Syria or even spend time talking to your loved ones.)
- Don’t drink too much, do yoga or take a long walk the day of, do try to greet everyone, do stuff as much food as possible into your face, do practice your dance ahead of time, don’t get bothered when things go wrong. Don’t be bossy but do speak up. (Of course I did most of these wrong. It’s easier to say than to do)
- Enjoy every minute.
Now I’m off to write 150 thank you notes! Thank you to everyone who read and enjoyed the past months with me. Xoxo.